This is a story about two best friends. Once upon a time,these two girls (which for the sake of this narrative I shall name Sherry and Kate) weer the best of friends. Nothing could separate them. As they both grew older, boys came into the picture. They both fell for the same guy, but the guy loved Sherry more. Hence, being the good friends that they were, Kate gave up the chase and let Sherry get together with the guy. (Let's call him Jake).
Sherry was utterly in love with Jake, and spent most of her time with him. Slowly, both Sherry and Kate grew apart. One day, Kate saw Jake getting "comfortable" with a girl. Only, the girl was not Sherry. Angry that her friend was being cheated on, she quickly called Sherry to tell her what she just saw. Expecting her friend to be grateful to her, she was shocked that Sherry scolded her, and said that she knew all along that Kate had never gotten over Jake, and was trying to break up their wonderful relationship. Sherry told Kate in no uncertain terms that unless she " grows up and be mature about it", they would no longer be friends.
So my faithful listeners, what would you do if you were in Kate's shoes? Or what would you do, if like me, this problem was place at your feet?
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Trouble in paradise?
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Hey Ryan,
Actually I don’t like to comment on relationship issues as they are usually very complicated and you may offer many solutions but none might solve the problem, if it is even solvable. But since you are the last person in my blog group whom I have not commented on, I have no choice. Haha.
Now if I was Kate, I have to decide on one thing. Should I break off the friendship with Sherry for wrongly accusing me or should I try to patch up this friendship? Either way, there’s only one action that I’ll take. I’ll tell Sherry, “I really did see Jake with this other girl. You can choose to heed my warning or you can ignore it, it’s up to you.” Then I’ll just ignore her and let her find out the truth herself.
If I were you, Ryan, and have this problem given to me, I have a couple of solutions that I could suggest. I presume that Kate was the one that told you this problem, since usually people would give the side of the story that puts them in good light. So, what you can do is try to talk to Sherry and hear her side of the story, and then see how it goes from there. Alternatively, you can just tell Kate to do what I say in the above paragraph.
And my dear Ryan, I’m not your blog’s listener, I’m a reader of your blog. So unless you have a recording of your post being played for me to hear, I’m a reader, not a listener. You might want to change that word on your post. Haha. Oh yah, congrats on getting a facebook account! Finally you gave in.
Regards,
Glenn
Hi Ryan,
Kate could probably provide Sherry with the details of the incident when she caught Jake with another girl, such as the location, time and description of the girl's features.
It will be best if Kate was with another person when she saw Jake, as the other person can serve to be another witness to the incident.
However, if Sherry continue to doubt and insult Kate that the other person was part of her scheme too, there is no more point in Kate's trying to tell Sherry the truth since there was no more trust in this friendship.
Kate has tried to warn and it is up to Sherry to find out the truth for herself and pick up the broken pieces of this friendship.
Cheers,
wanyee
Hey Ryan,
I was looking through finding for someone who had written on a relationship problem, and there you are. Firstly this problem mainly happens to girls and it always happens. Seen it personally many times.
Well Kate being the girl who liked him, its not easy being the one to tell Sherry. If i were in her shoes, I would get another friend to tell her.
Its not just about communication, but understanding your personal interference with the victim ( Sherry). Therefore, girls being emotional, may take it the wrong way without realising the real issue at hand. Thus its best to get the job done with the help of someone else.
Cheerzz
Hey Ryan,
your blog seriously reminded me of some aunt agony forum in the papers. Anyway, i'd love to give my two-cents worth on the situation. Firstly, Sherry is obviously insecure, as much as she loves Jake, and saw her 'ex-best friend, Kate,' a threat. So, instead of assuming that Kate still has a thing for Jake, Sherry should try LISTENING to both parties(Kate and Jake) and make a sensible judgment.
As for me, if i were in the position of Kate (i get to pick one character right?), I'd just say my piece and leave the rest to Sherry. As we all know, an emotionally unstable woman is as sound as a crazy hippo (Hippos, by the way, are slightly insane).
That's about it. Do give your thoughts about my suggestion.
Regards
Josh
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